Strengths, people, strengths

Strengths, people, strengths

So, I’m reading the Harvard Business Review this morning. Their cover story is Why Feedback Fails. I laugh. I laugh because I know why feedback fails in businesses – for the same reason it fails in school and in life in general. Feedback fails when...
Of Vinaigrettes and Yoga

Of Vinaigrettes and Yoga

If you’re not breathing, it’s a circus trick. – Sonya This first time I heard Sonya say that in yoga, I unlocked my jaw, stopped biting my lip, gulped for air, then burst out laughing. Obviously, it struck a chord with me. About the 12th time I heard it, I...
Stop polishing the glass ceiling

Stop polishing the glass ceiling

Really. Stop. Polishing the glass ceiling is insidious because we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It happens when we ask a question, ask for permission, look for validation or apologize for taking a risk. I did it this morning with my own 25 year old son, Ken. I’m...
How to Trust Yourself

How to Trust Yourself

Remember the cobra, Kaa, in The Jungle Book (1967) movie and his borderline creepy song Trust in Me? His weird blue and yellow eyes hypnotized Mowgli into doing whatever he said. How many times have you found yourself trusting other people more than you trust...
Ask for Help: It Will Save You

Ask for Help: It Will Save You

I’m always puzzled when a client is reluctant to ask for help. Maybe that’s because I built one of my careers on asking for help. When my husband, Bo, and I started our software company I became an instant product manager – meaning that I had to learn a bunch of...
You ARE Doing Everything Right

You ARE Doing Everything Right

Lately I’ve been talking to a lot of people who are frustrated with the way their lives are going. One has been looking for a new job, but keeps getting sick – like needing surgery sick. One is experiencing the frustration of learning to work within new physical...
Do a Perspective Check

Do a Perspective Check

Have you ever felt stuck? When I get stuck, it’s usually because I’ve lost perspective on whatever situation I find myself in. Diana Bader, my podcast cohost, and I started talking about it one day and decided to carry it over to Episode 127 of our podcast, Uniquely...
Your Work Matters

Your Work Matters

Your work matters… …wherever you do it. This week a friend loaned me How Hard Can It Be? by Allison Pearson. It’s the sequel to her book I Don’t Know How She Does It: The Life of Kate Reddy, Working Mother (movie starring Sarah Jessica Parker, Greg...
Mindset Check: Never Settle

Mindset Check: Never Settle

This week I had the opportunity to tackle a task I’ve been putting for two full years – writing a speech. I know – it’s hard to believe that I’ve been putting off something that involves talking, but there it is. It’s not even that I didn’t have a topic. I’ve been...
The Deadly Should Spiral Will Burn You Out

The Deadly Should Spiral Will Burn You Out

Recently, I was guest on the Burnt Out Podcast hosted by Sydney Axtell. We talked about my background, my work, and what burns me out. And, special bonus, she asked me about what I’m reading! Always my favorite question. The following is the transcript of the podcast....